Recognize

Lately, when anger comes up I try to ask myself “What am I working so hard to protect or avoid?” Every time I ask this question and breathe instead of trying to run from or shut down the conflict, my anger eventually turns into compassion for myself and for my so-called “attacker” who most likely is defending one of his or her own hurt places. The words “I feel afraid or sad” come out more easily… our eyes go soft. We get to help each other heal.

— Annie O’Shaughnessy [via]

To recognize when the little me is upset and tries to control the real me is one step needed to wake up to the presence of God in the present moment.